Appearance Matters | Frank Love on Relationships

Monday, Apr. 30th 2012 10:00 AM

Recently, as I was milling around the house, having a pretty average day, and I looked up and saw a beautiful woman walking my way. It was my mate. Good night! She was absolutely beautiful ? and I was absolutely flabbergasted. She had just had her hair done, and it looked amazing. Now, don?t get me wrong. I always find her attractive, but seeing her all polished and made up really got my attention. I love her for all sorts of reasons that have nothing to do with appearance, but I also really loved it when she got all renewed.

? In the early stages of a relationship, most of us make an effort to present ourselves in the most attractive light. But over time, our presentations can go stale. I admit that I am definitely not the first in line for the barber?s chair every Friday. And I don?t make a point of getting dressed up often or getting a manicure or pedicure. But after having the woman I?ve been looking at for eight years blow me away, I can now see how appearance matters ? even when we are with partners who said they?ll always be there for us. And who we believe truly love us, no matter how shabby we look. That may be true, but that doesn?t mean they don?t want to see us put in a little effort into our presentation every once in a while.

I am not suggesting you dress up for your partner every day. If you did, seeing you like that would become status quo. What I?m suggesting is that you be and look like yourself (however you are comfortable doing so) most of the time, but shake it up with a fresh style from time to time. I seem to be genetically predisposed to jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt, and I only get a haircut about once every four months, unless I have a special event to attend. But come to think of it, my lady always tells me that she likes me with a haircut when I get one. So I?ll make an effort to visit the barber shop more frequently, and I might even throw on some sharp, new duds every once in a while.

This would be a new look for me, but everybody?s ?new? isn?t polished. You might wear a suit every day, so putting one on isn?t a change. However, throwing on some jeans might get you a double-take. Or, maybe you wear your long hair up most of the time. Try letting it down or getting a new style. Bottom line: Shake it up. That extra sparkle when your partner looks at you might be worth it.

This is not an invitation to tell your partner to groom. Nope, that is hardly the spirit of my message. This realization about myself came from appreciating my mate. If she had said to me, ?Hey, you look like crap. Go clean yourself up,? looking nice for her would have been the last thing I wanted to do. If you want your partner to go the extra or another mile, I suggest subtle, positive reinforcement. Be sure to show your appreciation when he shaves, or when she puts on a dress that makes you want to take it off. Simply say, Wow!!! You look great.? If your partner read or watched this, he/she will have a good idea what to do next. If not, a desire to hear you say it again might inspire a little more effort in the future.

Keep Rising,

Frank Love
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